To pierce or not to pierce..

Being a parent means making decisions for your kids when they are too young to make it themselves.

Alysha is gonna be 4 next year, which means that for the past 4 years, we have been asked, countless of times on why we have not pierced her ears.

On the first week of her life on planet Earth, she had already received gold earrings as a gift. Sort of a welcome gift.. OF PAIN! LoL~

Ok, the ultimate reason we have been putting it off is because, as some of you already know, she went through traumatic experience twice. Both sides of her thighs were burnt by hot iron and a few months later, her chest was scalded by hot soup. These nasty incidents left 3 scars on her skin, which serves as a reminder to me of the ordeal that she had went through. Every single time I bathe and clothe her, these scars just scream at my failure as a mother to protect her from harm. Allah has presented her to me, free from defects, not even a single mole on her skin. But now when she is under my care... Tsk tsk tsk Ayu.. 

And now that her birthday is looming again, we are bracing ourselves for these questions.

'She'll look like a girl'

'She'll look prettier'

Seriously people, stop insulting my child with these reasonings. She's perfect the way she is now.

Just keeping this for future references.. :)

 

Q. What about testimonials? Can’t personal experience demonstrate what works?

A. “Testimonials” are personal accounts of someone’s experiences with a therapy. They are generally subjective: “I felt better,” “I had more energy,” “I wasn’t as nauseated,” “The pain went away,” and so on. Testimonials are inherently selective. People are much more likely to talk about their “amazing cure” than about something that didn’t work for them. The proponents of “alternative” methods can, of course, pick which testimonials they use. For example, let’s suppose that if 100 people are sick, 50 of them will recover on their own even if they do nothing. So, if all 100 people use a certain therapy, half will get better even if the treatment doesn’t do anything. These people could say “I took therapy X and my disease went away!” This would be completely honest, even though the therapy had done nothing for them. So, testimonials are useless for judging treatment effectiveness. For all we know, those giving the testimonial might be the only people who felt better. Or, suppose that of 100 patients trying a therapy, 10 experienced no change, 85 felt worse, and 5 felt better. The five who improved could quite honestly say that they felt better, even though nearly everyone who tried the remedy stayed the same or got worse!

Tanpa dirimu aku merasa hilang..

Dedicated to the loves of my life.. Azmi & Alysha..

Aku ingin menjadi mimpi indah dalam tidurmu
Aku ingin menjadi sesuatu yg mungkin bisa kau rindu
Karena langkah merapuh tanpa dirimu
Oh karena hati tlah letih

Aku ingin menjadi sesuatu yg selalu bisa kau sentuh
Aku ingin kau tahu bahwa ku selalu memujamu
Tanpamu sepinya waktu merantai hati
Oh bayangmu seakan-akan

Kau seperti nyanyian dalam hatiku
Yang memanggil rinduku padamu
Seperti udara yg kuhela kau selalu ada
Hanya dirimu yg bisa membuatku tenang
Tanpa dirimu aku merasa hilang
Dan sepi, dan sepi

Selalu ada, kau selalu ada
Selalu ada, kau selalu ada